Everyone knows a couple who have experienced some level of cheating. Infidelity is continuing to rise in this country and although committed relationship also continue to increase in numbers – whether marital or just committed – the statistics are alarming. The question that is posed in this article – and is being heavily debated nationwide – is how such cheating-impacted relationships are faring in general and who is leaving in greater numbers men or women.
For the sake of clarification we are talking about how often the offended party leaves such a relationship not the offender. This issue is very much related to why men and women forgive their partner in such circumstances. Statistically, women are more likely to forgive a wayward partner than are men. The qualifier in this case is if the man was involved just physically or if he actually cheated for love. In that scenario the numbers for a woman’s rate of forgiveness are about equal to the numbers for men overall.
Men have a hard time forgiving their partner for reasons that are different from those impacting women. It has nothing to do with the cause of the transgression in the first place. Women stray when their emotional needs are not met; men stray when they have their ego bruised – a typical effect of being nagged or controlled.
When it comes time to consider forgiveness the rationale for both genders is totally distinct from why the cheating occurred. If a woman believes that she was cheated on by a man who truly seeks love elsewhere she is much more unlikely to forgive him. A man who fell in love with his temporary lover after cheating started, has even less of a chance. Men rarely consider such a distinction. When a man is cheated on there are different issues that come into play. He feels the same kind of betrayal, lack of trust, and hurt that a woman does. What he also universally feels is robbed of even the chance to compete – a major blow to his warrior spirit. That, it seems, is why men are much less likely to forgive infidelity.
Returning to the original question: Men leave relationships oftener than women when they, the man, are the victim. Clearly this topic will be heavily debated for decades to come. It seems that men and women are no closer to finding common ground in the direction of lasting relationships than they were decades ago, despite the general increase in our knowledge about the subject.
If you want to get ex back in a relationship damaged by infidelity, or if you plan to win your ex back and it was your infidelity, your grasp of this information could be key. Regardless, you may find that trying to get your ex back might be possible with a partner who still loves you.
